It turned into Mr. Tantrum saying every three minutes, "That was a gift you gave me!" or "I bought that for you, so I should get to keep it!" Seriously?!? You want to keep my copy of Gone With The Wind and Scarlett? You are crazy!
As it dwindled down I mentioned that I am planning on taking some classes in the spring and I will need him to take Bacon for 7 weekends straight. I would be more than happy to do the same, should something come up for him that he needs to do and take Bacon for the 7 weekends before or after so he can have some freetime.
I hoped that this would be fine. Instead it turned into him screaming at me about "not spending enough time with Bacon" and "being selfish and not trading weekends" with him.
He made me so mad I was seriously contemplating jabbing his eyes out with a fork.
Even when I explained what it was and how it would work he still screamed at me and shook his fists in the air like some crazy old hermit man. I explained that I would still have Bacon for the same amount of time he wouldn't hear of it.
I think he is mad that I am making plans and moving on. I think that he is irritated that there are still things that I want to pursue to enhance my life. I am wondering this morning if he thinks that by acting like this I will come running back to him wanting to reconcile.
I know that he is hurt, and I know that it will take time to get him to a place where he can be somewhat civil, but seriously arguing and shouting make me really want to have NOTHING at all to do with him. They make me feel all stabby and bitter that I did stay as long as I did, and remind me that no matter how much you think you can make something work, sometimes it just isn't meant to be.
Thankfully things are now sorted and boxed so that when the day comes I can move and be done. Hopefully, when I pack up my Cuisinart and Kitchen Aid he won't start yelling about how he needs those too. Hopefully, by the time this is all over we can at some point be friends like we were before we got married. And HOPEFULLY he can find a woman who will love him and cherish him the way he deserves. I just want him to be happy and settled, for all of our sakes.